You may already have an idea of what bugs your partner, so the answer might not be that much of a surprise. Asking this question requires some openess and some courage. Once you get past the discumfort of asking this question, most of the time it is worth it. This kind of question can lead to more open and thoughtful communication, and a feeling of gratitude. Who wouldn't appreciate a partner who actively tries to improve the relationship.
This question leads to a better relationship (friendship or LTR). Even if you choose not to ask this question, the fact is, there are some tings that that you do the bugs your partner. Of course, the opposite is true as well. Nevertheless, the issue is there. If you keep it buried, this tends to lead to resentment. But if you ask the question, then you will at least know what bugs them and you will have an opportunity to make some changes.
If you ask this questions with sincerity and nondefensively, this often takes the edge off the issue. The other person get ther feeling that you really want to work towards a positive change.This makes the issue easier to talk about.
The answer that you get might be something minor or someting that is more serious. Which ever way it goes, the issue will be out in the open in a more relaxed environment. This makes it easier for this to become a non-issue.
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